Honesty is the Best Policy

I really think that, no matter what kind of relationship you are in, honesty is the one thing that you can't miss out. To me, part of real love is being honest with the other party. And I don't just mean romantic love, the kind you share with a partner, but friend-love and even familial love. How can someone think that lying is any form of protection? 

"I lied to you so that you wouldn't get hurt".

What kind of bollocks is that? 

Lies aren't suits of armour, they aren't swords or shields or lances or rayguns or any other kind of protective device. And I think that honesty is even more important for those of us who are polyamorous. So much of what brings me to poly is that I am free to love many people and to be honest about my feelings for them and for my other partners. I don't have to hide them. But I forget sometimes that not all people have the same views and attitudes as me, and sometimes people lie to themselves too.

*sigh*

Anyway. It's nearly five weeks since I had my VCH piercing! It looks fabulous but I think I am going to need a longer bar for it, as the bottom ball does tend to hide underneath my hood rather than resting on my clit. That's easy enough done, though. I've seen some nice ones on ebay and on a couple of body-piercing websites and am currently preferring a titanium and pearl one or a green titanium one. I can't quite find the perfect one, but I will. It's made me think about body piercing again and I am thinking my next one(s) will either be my 1.6mm lobes or both my nipples. The Man still hasn't got his finger out to finish translating my forearm tattoos but that's okay because I haven't really worked out exactly what I want yet. I'm also considering a Latin piece for my upper thigh, a translation of Snow White and Rose Red, with some sort of stuff around it, but again that one's still up in the air. Maybe I should actually get someone who's good at art to help?